How to Choose Your First Sex Toy: A Beginner's Guide
Buying your first sex toy can feel like a big step, but it does not need to be complicated. Start with what feels comfortable, choose a simple design and give yourself time to learn what you enjoy.
1. Decide how you want to use it
Think about whether the toy is for solo use, shared play or both. Then decide whether you prefer external stimulation, internal stimulation or something that can do either. This narrows the options quickly.
2. Keep your first choice simple
Compact vibrators, mini wands, simple masturbators, sleeves and adjustable rings can be approachable starting points. Avoid choosing something only because it has the most functions. Comfortable controls and an easy-to-clean design are usually more important.
3. Check size, material and power
Read the measurements rather than judging size from a photo. Look for smooth, body-safe materials from trusted suppliers. Rechargeable toys are convenient, while battery-operated options can suit occasional use or a smaller budget.
4. Add the right lubricant
Lubricant can improve comfort and reduce friction. Water-based lubricant is compatible with most toys and is easy to clean. Always follow the product instructions and check material compatibility before using silicone lubricant.
5. Use and clean it safely
Wash the toy before and after use according to its care instructions. Start slowly and use the lowest setting first. Stop if something feels painful or uncomfortable, and never use an insertable anal toy unless it has a flared base designed to prevent it travelling too far.
Easy places to start
If you are still unsure, visit the friendly A Tease team at 313 Maunganui Road, Mount Maunganui, or contact us privately. Online orders are delivered throughout New Zealand in plain, unmarked packaging.